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Once Again…Choose Love

I was searching for one of my favorite Marianne Williamson quotes and came across a blog post from one year ago titled Choose Love.

It was just what I needed to read after the horrible event that took place last Friday at Sandy Hook Elementary school in Newtown, CT.

Love instead of fear

When bad things happen I turn to my  favorite inspirational ladies–Brene Brown, Patti Digh, and Marianne Williamson. Their words and beliefs are generally in line with how I feel and tend to offer the best support. I can very quickly find myself in a downward spiral of fear and anxiety, so I look to them to help keep my thoughts grounded in reality, and love.

If you’re looking for comfort and support right now, check out their websites, blogs, and Facebook pages and I’m sure you will find it. Here is a poem posted on Patti’s blog yesterday.

Shoulders

A man crosses the street in rain,
stepping gently, looking two times north and south,
because his son is asleep on his shoulder.

No car must splash him.
No car drive too near to his shadow.

This man carries the world’s most sensitive cargo
but he’s not marked.
Nowhere does his jacket say FRAGILE,
HANDLE WITH CARE.

His ear fills up with breathing.
He hears the hum of a boy’s dream
deep inside him.

We’re not going to be able
to live in this world
if we’re not willing to do what he’s doing
with one another.

The road will only be wide.
The rain will never stop falling.

~ Naomi Shihab Nye ~

I also recommend reading this post from another blog Patti participates in with two of her best friends. The last story reflects my deepest fears and thoughts as a mother. And it is beautiful.

That is all.


Choose Love 5

I’ve been pretty anxious this week.
 
For people who struggle with general, everyday anxiety, you know you don’t need a reason to be anxious…you just are.
 
All week I’ve been repeating my own little form of therapeutic self-talk, without really knowing or remembering what it is that was bothering me:
 
“Bad things happen every day. But it doesn’t mean they will happen to you, or those you love. Tragic, horrible, heartbreaking things happen all the time and there is nothing you can do about it. Stop worrying.”
 
These words haunt me in light of what happened today on the Virginia Tech campus. Another undeserved tragedy. Another day plagued with fear. Another unfair, horrible, heartbreaking scene.
 
And as I sit down to write, to really write for the first time in what feels like forever, the past ten months come to a head and I find the source of my anxiety this week.
My body remembers. My heart remembers. 
And the tears come.
Our baby #2 was due to be born today.
And all at once it fills me with sadness and love and loss and awe.
 
These kinds of things just don’t make sense. 
 
And all we can do is pray. When fear, anxiety, tragedy, loss, sadness and heartbreak take over, all we can do is pray. Pray for the people going through bad times. Pray to find peace in the situation. Pray for the ability to live in the moment and find beauty. Pray for peace of mind.
 
As I find peace in my own loss, I pray for all those affected by the events today at Virginia Teach and once again find solace in the words of Marianne Williamson.
“Every situation we find ourselves in is an opportunity, 
perfectly planned by the Holy Spirit, to teach love instead of fear.”
 
Choose love.
 
Everyday.
 
I am trying my hardest.
And I am praying for miracles. 
Sunset tonight on the VT campus, taken by our cousin Trey, a current senior at VT

The Lake of Dreams: Act from Love 1

I just finished reading The Lake of Dreams by Kim Edwards for the BlogHer Book Review Program and though I felt the 377 page novel had a slow start, I found myself sobbing and overcome with emotion after getting a little past the half-way point. 

While I wished I felt more of an attachment to the main character, Lucy Jarrett, what saved me from becoming totally bored with this book was the story of her long, lost ancestor Rose Jarrett in the letters written to her daughter, Iris. 

Being a mother to a young daughter, reading the excerpts she wrote after leaving Iris during the woman’s suffrage movement, literally tore out my heart. I had to annoyingly leave my cozy couch to retrieve piles of tissues while I read as the tears wouldn’t stop. I couldn’t fathom having to make the decision to leave my daughter to have a “better” or more stable life, knowing she may forever feel disconnected and unwanted by her own mother.

Gut-wrenching. 

Leading back to this distressing decision was a quote from Rose’s letters:

For this is what I have learned, in my short life: do not act out of anger. Act from love, or not at all. p. 273

When she chose to leave her daughter in the care of her brother and his wife she was acting from love, and I like to think that even if her daughter felt abandoned, when intentions are based from love they can never be wrong.

This particular excerpt has made me question my own intentions and how choosing love over anger and fear have been such a huge part of the journey I share on this blog to “live in the moment and make it beautiful.” The simple decision to choose love over fear (or anger) has helped me get through some difficult times, as well as a lot of anxiety.
After going through a particularly hard time, in fact, this quote from Marianne Williamson, was what helped me to pull through.
“Every situation we find ourselves in is an opportunity, 

perfectly planned by the Holy Spirit, to teach love instead of fear.”

If I take anything at all from this long story of interwoven ancestors it is not only to act from love over anger but to “act from love, or not at all.” It is one lesson that I plan on passing down to my own daughter. 
And her daughter. 
And all of those who follow.

How do you choose love over anger or fear in your own life?
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This was a paid review for BlogHer Book Club but the opinions expressed are my own.